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What? Why are guys expected to pay? Cases like this leave a really bitter taste in my mouth, why does feminism and equal treatment only apply when there isn't perks involved?
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Because women, on average, spend WAY more money in the course of a lifetime on date preparation and self maintenance than men will ever spend on the actual dates themselves. Think of how much we spend of make-up, cute outfits, salons, hair care products, and the like. Then look at your Suave shampoo and first date outfit that you’ve owned for three years and cost you probably a *maximum* of $200.

Now, I’m not saying that women dress up and look good just for men or just for dates because of social pressure. I, for one, do it because when I do I feel sexy and extremely empowered. You, however, can spend on average 30 minutes getting ready compared to my two hours.

Therefore, you pay more on the dates as a way to balance the scales based on maintenance and time costs.

Also, you pay for dinner because when you go to look at a work of art in person, you pay a fucking entrance fee.

This is why I always try to pay for dates. And this is pretty much the reason I give.

Is this feminism and gender equality in general in America? Sounds very similar to Korean 된장녀s logic for me.

Interesting. I don’t agree with just about any of this, though. No one should feel obligated to pay for dinner because their date bought makeup and a new dress. As the mother of a son, I hope he grows up to be generous enough to treat his friends — both romantic and platonic — to meals, regardless of how much income he makes. I also hope he isn’t surrounded by (wo)men who expect him to open his wallet every single time a check arrives.

For me, it was the one who asks the person out, pays for the first round. If I ask you out, that means I have the means to pay for whatever I asked you out for and feel you are worth spending that time and money with. @ If you get the movie, i’ll pay for dinner. If you get dinner, I’ll get the coffee. If I have no money, we don’t go out. I feel that is only fair.

On another note, the term 된장녀 is offensive as shit and shouldn’t be used. When that term came out my first thought was ‘Fuck you. Yes I skip a meal and spend 7 bucks for a pot of tea because I value that more than food. Just like you men eat ramen at home but spend tens of dollars to get shit-faced drunk.’

I’m not sure if I do or don’t agree with seoulsizzle I don’t have a strong enough opinion in the matter but something else someone said bothered me….

I don’t think you understand what the term 된장녀/놈 really means…if you did you wouldn’t say it was offensive, I’m assuming the example about not eating a meal over a pot of tea makes you a 된장녀 but that’s just completely false…된장녀 is simply a gold digger…for example a girl receives a no name brand purse from her boyfriend but gets mad bc it’s not prada…the girl (or guy) who goes to Pizza Hut but would rather eat at a 5 star hotel restaurant these are all examples of 된장녀…your examples are more like from Psy’s song gangnam style. I think it’s also hypocritical you call out someone for saying 된장녀 as being highly offensive…so your rant about bangingkboys fetishizing Korean men wasn’t highly offensive? If you knew him (which you clearly do not) you would know better rather than make shallow accusations about someone’s satirical blog….and if you understood the Korean language and cultural like you say you do then you’d know that honestly 된장녀 really isn’t that offensive.

You know what? There are so many things to correct and yet I’m not going to explain in detail. I only do that when I deem the person capable of neural activity and my efforts will not go to waste.

Really. You, as a foreigner who lived a few years now in Korea, are trying to tell me, a Korean woman who has lived 20 years in Korea, that she doesn’t understand what 된장녀 means and that it’s not offensive. That’s fucking rich. While you’re at it why don’t you try saying calling gay people f**s and d***s is inoffensive as well.

As for my “rant” on bangingkboys, I believe you are referring to this post(http://arari.tumblr.com/post/93209026768/on-yellow-fever) where I said “As for the expats in an Asian country. Saying it’s not yellow fever because 99 percent of the population is Japanese/Chinese/Korean/Filipino/Thai/etc. doesn’t fly. Your dating demographic isn’t the problem, it’s the way you are treating them as something to experience, consume, and excrete. A notch on your cosmopolitan belt. Such blog names as bangingkboys right out advertise themselves as such. And others such as AdoesB aren’t better. How can one ‘do’ a country and culture? Also, ‘doing’ is used when referring to using someone for sex. Doesn’t that say enough about your attitude towards said country and its people?”

Yes, though I’ve only met him once before, I cannot say I know him well. However I do know that you can still be an attractive person and still have a problematic blog name.

I think that is all for now. If I may, I would like to recommend you to this(https://owl.english.purdue.edu/owl/resource/659/01/) and this(http://www.amazon.com/Writing-Logically-Thinking-Critically-Edition/dp/0205119123). You are welcome.

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lostintrafficlights:

The text reads: “The biggest American army base in Northeast Asia! Will finish moving in by 2016, 3.5 times the size of Yeouido! You can’t find an investment like this in the world! Profitable rental apartments for the U.S military!” Ugh. It should also be noted that this is by Brownstone (talking about Camp Humphreys) which is a high quality “luxury” apartment brand. All this while the average citizen in Korea can’t afford to buy houses and rent prices are going through the roof. Fuck this.